Or: “What I Would Say to the Graduating Class of 2018”

I’ve ruminated before about how change is so feared because change is so painful. This holds true the more powerful the change is.

I wrote lyrics for a song called “Transposition” for Circuit Theory wherein I asked someone to lie to their significant other and be with me, knowing full well it would dramatically change all three of our lives if she did.

Indeed, the more people affected, the more pain it will cause them all.

But change is constant. Change is necessary. Be ready. You WILL NOT always be the driving force behind it. In fact, the chances of you being on “the right side” will be less than not.
You WILL, more often than you’d wish, be inclined to resist it.

That’s ok.
Find the middle ground.
Find the balance of pain, for you
and for them.

Because changes are happening — and while they may or may not be in your favor, they will still come at a cost.

Tool, 46 and 2
“I wanna feel the change consume me
Feel the outside turning in
I wanna feel the metamorphosis and
Cleansing I’ve endured within.”

You must not let this deter you. Embrace the change. Your deterrence of pain will only pass it on to the next generation. Embrace the change. Accept the compromise.

Tool, Lateralus
“I embrace my desire to…
Feel the rhythm, to feel connected,
enough to step aside and weep like a widow,
to feel inspired, to fathom the power,
to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain,
to swing on the spiral.”

As a wise man, high on Foreigner once said,

“We will never know world peace, until three people can simultaneously look each other straight in the eye.”

In other words… We’ll get close, we’ll try many an endless way, but we’ll never get IT.

So just fucking relax.